Women and Marriage

The union of matrimony in is its philosophical sense in intended to be a partnership that allows two people work as a team to build their lives, and provide support to each other and their family.

From an early age, women are taught that they should get married. There are traditional visions of how life is to be. Marriage in most cases provides security, financial stability, and support.  Parenting is easier in a two parent home.

In the workplace, even in 2010, wages aren’t equal and women don’t get an equal opportunity.  Statistics prove that women are generally paid 23% less than men in the workplace for the same job. This disparity makes it difficult to live a decent life or for single mothers to provide for their children.

Marriage should be viewed as a partnership. When people walk down that aisle and sign that contract that’s what they are agreeing to. Divorce laws are more in tune with the realities of women’s position in the workplace and thus are balanced in their favor accordingly.

Men may think that women are trying to gouge them. In some cased some mean spirited women are,  but in most cases that law reflects the realities of what it would be like for a middle aged woman to enter the workplace if perhaps not working for 10 years or more while being home raising children. It’s much more difficult for them to re-establish themselves and become employed.

A healthy marriage should provide not merely monetary support but emotional support. Staying at home and raising children is hard work. It’s a difficult sacrifice some women make for the consideration of their children and families. In many families that is just impossible  as the cost of living simply becoming too much for a single income family.

Women look for certain things from their partner. They expect their spouse to listen. They want to feel like they have a voice and their interests are heard and understood. This in turn creates better communication and better communication is the first step to healthy marriages.

Women want to be supported. Whether they are stay at home moms are career driven women they want to know their partner has their back. The partnership of marriage means they face life as a team. Knowing that their spouse respects their work and supports their interests and goals creates balance in the union and happier people.

Women want to be respected from their partner. Not everything two people do is going to be exactly alike, but that doesn’t mean that what one desires or aspires to be, is any less important than what the other spouse wants.

Love, respect, support, and fair communication are what the union means to many women, Not the flighty fairy tale fantasies some men think women have. Sure the wedding itself is every little girls dream. It’s really their day. Men wanting life lasting healthy marriage should remember those four important qualities. If one or more of those is missing, you can be sure your marriage will be headed to counseling.